Welcome to Child Bereavement Support

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Recommended Books

Guide Books For Bereaved Parents

Title	Author
When the Bough Breaks: Forever After the Death of a Son or Daughter	Judith R. Bernstein, Ph.D.
After the Darkest Hour, the Sun Will Shine Again: A Parent’s Guide to Coping with the Loss of a Child	Elizabeth Mehren
The Bereaved Parent	Harriet Sarnoff Schiff
The Worst Loss: How Families Heal from the Death of a Child	Barbara D. Rosof
How to Survive the Loss of a Child	Catherine M. Sanders
When a Baby Dies	Jill Worth
No Time to Say Goodbye	Paul Arnott
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart. Surviving the Death of Your Baby	Deborah L. Davis
The SIDS Survival Guide - Information and Comfort for Grieving Family and Friends and Professionals Who Seek to Help Them	Joani Nelson Horchler and Robin Rice Morris.
Help, Comfort & Hope after Losing Your Baby in Pregnancy or the First Year	Hannah Lothrop
When a Baby Dies. The experience of late miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal death	Nancy Kohner and Alix Henley
Healing a Parent’s Grieving Heart- 100 practical ideas after your child dies.	Alan Wolfelt
Trying Again. A Guide to pregnancy after miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss	Ann Douglas and John Sussman
Finding Hope When a Child Dies – What Other Cultures Can Teach Us	Sukie Miller

General Bereavement Guide Books

Title	Author	Remarks
When Mourning Breaks: Tales of Hope and Healing	Anthony Yeo	Singapore
How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies	Therese A. Rando, Ph.D.
“You’ll Get Over It”. The Rage of Bereavement	Virginia Ironside
The Courage to Grieve: Creative Living, Recovery & Growth Through Grief	Judy Tatelbaum
To Heal Again: Towards Serenity and the Resolution of Grief	Rusty Berkus	short soothing statements with dreamlike illustrations
Learning to Live Again: A Practical, Spiritual Guide to Coping with Bereavement	Rita Rogers	(Rogers is a well-known psychic practicing in England. She gives compelling stories of putting parents in touch with their deceased children, helping them resolve some of their most painful grief issues.
Grieving the Loss of a Loved One: A Devotional Companion	Kathe Wunnenberg	a Christian guide

Personal Accounts of Coping With the Loss of a Child

Title	Author	Remarks
A Broken Heart Still Beats	Anne McCracken & Mary Semel	This is a collection of pieces by famous people -- writers, politicians, actors, other public figures both real and fictional – describing how they experienced the death of their child.
Give Sorrow Words	Tom Crider	A one year diary following the death of his grown daughter in a fire
Lament for a Son	Nicholas Wolterstorff	Account of feelings and thoughts after losing a teenage son in a climbing accident
Touching the Edge	Margaret Wurtele	Account of healing process after losing her only child, a grown son
Paula	Isabel Allende
A Grief Observed	C.S. Lewis	A short but moving and expressive account of grief following the death of his much beloved wife
A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss	Jerry L. Sittser	A heartrending account of grief and healing following a car accident which killed his child, his wife and his mother

Philosophical Approaches to Understanding Loss

Title	Author
Who Dies? An Investigation of Conscious Living and Conscious Dying	Stephen & Ondrea Levine
Life Lessons: How our Mortality can Teach us about Life and Living	Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler
The Wheel of Life	Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying	Sogyal Rinpoche
No Death, No fear: Comforting Wisdom for Life	Thich Nhat Hanh
The Journey Home: What Near-Death Experiences and Mysticism Teach us about the Gift of Life	Phillip L. Berman
Healing Grief	James van Praagh

Miscellaneous

Title	Author	Remarks
Many Lives, Many Masters: The True Story of a Prominent Psychiatrist, his Young Patient, and the Past-Life Therapy that Changed both their Lives.	Dr. Brian Weiss
Life After Life	Raymond A. Moody
Death’s Door: True Stories of Near-Death Experiences	Jean Ritchie
Words of Comfort	Edited by Helen Exley	little hardcover booklet containing collection of grief poems
When Your Friend’s Child Dies – A Guide to Being a Thoughtful and Caring Friend	Julane Grant
The Christmas Box	Richard Paul Evans

Helping Children Cope with Grief

Title	Author	Remarks
On Children and Death: How Children and their Parents can and do Cope with Death	Elizabeth Kübler-Ross
The Kid’s Book about Death and Dying By and for Kids	Eric E. Rofes and the Unit at Fayerweather Street School
I Will Remember You: A Guidebook Through Grief for Teens	Laura Dower
What on Earth Do I Do When Someone Dies?	Trevor Romain	guidebook written for young children answering their most common questions
Sad Isn’t Bad: A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing with Loss	Michaelene Mundy
The Fall of Freddie the Leaf: A Story of Life for All Ages	Leo Buscaglia, PhD
Lifetimes: A Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children	Bryan Mellonie & Robert Ingpen
Badger’s Parting Gifts	Susan Varley
No Matter What	Debi Gliori	for preschool children
Someone Special Died	Joan Singleton Prestine	for very young children
Shooting Stardust	Frrich Lewandowski	story for young children told by a boy whose brother died
Balloons for Trevor	Anne Good Cave	story of a boy who loses his best friend, told for school age children
When Someone Dies	Sharon Greenlee
Jack’s Journey	Laura Harris, M.Div, MSW & Steve Dawson M.Div, LCSW
Water Bugs & Dragonflies – Explaining Death to Young Children	Doris Stickney
When Dinosaurs Die – A Guide to Understanding Death	Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown

Materials available from The Child Bereavement Trust, UK

Title	Remarks
Caring – For you when your baby dies	a comprehensive and general booklet guide written by a bereaved mother in the UK, with Jenni Thomas of CBT. Excellent advice and information.
Memories	a booklet with spaces for photos, foot and hand prints etc. Sections in the booklet allow for information of the lost child and for others to write “special words”.
This is about me	a workbook designed to help communicate difficult information to children when a parent (or prime carer) is terminally ill. Especially for 4 – 14 year olds
My book about me	a workbook designed to help children with a life-threatening illness understand their feelings and so lessen their fears and help them to cope.
My Book About Our Baby that Died	a workbook for children
Grieving - after the death of your baby	a book to accompany the video (“When Our Baby Died”) – aimed at helping families to find ways of expressing their grief and remembering their baby
The CBT Children’s Activity & Information Pack	a pack to accompany the video (“Someone Died – It happened to me”) – full of information about children and grief, together with suggestions and ideas of things children can do to help them express their feelings. Included in this activity pack are notebooks to write thoughts; a balloon and a label to send a message; special stickers for writing or drawings; a glove puppet pattern and a book with information on losing somebody dear
Benedict – A child of mine	a small book of poems written by Alexa Warden, a bereaved mother.
Videos
When Our Baby Died	a video about grief for parents and families and all who care about them. Aimed at helping parents to feel less alone and to understand more about what they feel. Parents, grandparents and children talk about their feelings, explaining what the death of their baby has meant to them, and how it has changed their lives, and they describe some of the things they have done to express their grief, mourn for their baby and find support for themselves.
Someone Died – It happened to me	a video for children and teenagers about loss and grief. Children between 7 and 18 talk about the loss of a parent, brother or sister.

COUNSELLING CENTRES IN SINGAPORE

The following are counselling centres open to anyone, regardless of race or religion. They offer general counselling services, including bereavement counseling.

COUNSELLING CENTRES	Tel No (as at March 2005)
SINDA	62985911
Shan Yu	67419293
PPIS (Jurong)	65613462
Moral Family Service Centre	64491440
Counselling & Care Centre – Anthony Yeo	65366366
Care Corner Family Service Centres:
Toa Payoh	63561622
Woodlands	63622481
Admiralty	63658751
Queenstown	64761481
Care Corner Counselling Centre (Mandarin)	63531180
Saint Andrew Life Streams	63232902
Help Every Lone Parent (HELP) Rainbow Programme	6457 5188
LP Clinic (Mount Elizabeth Hospital) Dr Pauline Sim Li Ping	67354526
Family Works Pte Ltd	62353341

OTHERS

A comprehensive guide on formalities and procedures immediately after death has just been published jointly by the National Environment Agency and The Association of Funeral Directors (Singapore) – called ‘When A Loved One Passes Away’.